I never thought I could be contributing toxicity to the relationship. They were always going for the other guys who I thought just weren’t that great.
I would judge the women as shallow, I would judge the guy as a douche or worthless or whatever else I could think of to keep my ego intact.
Encourage the girl you are dating to set boundaries, and then respect them.
She may have difficulty expressing her needs to you and is acting them out instead by taking longer to return your calls or texts, making excuses to spend less time with you or being noticeably less intimate.
It’s a common problem that a lot of guys struggle with.
Because of these poor mindsets, I always ended up with women who were equally as toxic and insecure – but of course we would never admit that.
I have personally sabotaged relationships by freaking out and trying desperately to bring a man closer when all I really should have done was given him space. How you handle his need for space is absolutely crucial.
Guys don’t usually even consciously realize they need space until you either complain or he feels completely suffocated.
Make a mental list of the characteristics that attracted you to her.You need to take care of yourself beyond the basic necessities. In my case, I am really interested in animals and learning about their habitats—a real outdoorsy type.My boyfriend supports me in this, even though he isn’t very enthusiastic about being outside all day.Your partner does not need to know where you are or what you are doing every moment of the day.You each need to respect the other’s privacy and needs.I’m really confused about something my boyfriend said and I was hoping you could help.